In July 2018 I took part in a group self-marriage ritual. The following March I bought myself a ring. In this article I look at my personal journey that brought me to my knees at the altar of myself.

It’s May 2020. I don’t have to tell you why I’m writing about race. What I do want to tell you about, is racial bias. As White people, we have it, Whether we like it or not. This article is a reflection on my own life story and experiences of acknowledging I have grown up in a white, racist society. I share the story of how I came to accept this as a part of me and how I have learned to heal from it to be a better ally.